Everything happens for a reason...

       I'm not sure where it even started, but for as long as I can remember, my motto has always been "everything happens for a reason".  For those of you who agree with this statement, well...I'm just not so sure you do.  It's easy to say "yeah, you're right" when you hear it or even see it on my twitter page.  It's even easier to pass on these words to someone else who might be struggling or dealing with something hard.  Its vague, yes, but it's the answer that works without any explanation. For most it seems like an easy thing to say when at a loss for words.  For some its even easier to get upset about when hearing these words to help ease their own pain.  I don't know how many times my friends have told me "yea, I know you think everything happens for a reason...you don't need to say it".  I never took it personally because its hard to get mad at someone when they're simply trying to deal, even if it seems like they're taking it out on you.  I never once went back and forced someone to re-look at a situation that they were so upset about they would say "God, why me?  I know everything happens for a reason, but I CANNOT find the reason in this".  I never once said that "everything happens for a GOOD reason", so maybe that's where the problem lies.  I bet if every single person were to look back at situations like that from the past they would see the reason in what happened before.  Whether you think the reason is good or bad, it was a reason, a reason that makes your life the life what it is today. 

                God has a plan for all of us and if you believe that without believing that everything happens for a reason then you really don't believe in the first part at all.  We are never given anything that we can't handle.  Sometimes it might seem like our struggles are so hard that carrying on isn't even an option anymore, but God brought you to it so he'll see you through it.  For me God is everything so that means he controls our everything, so everything simply does happen for a reason.  Now, I'm not saying all of this to prove that my faith is stronger than yours or that I handle situations much better.  I am saying this because you cannot argue that everything in your life is there because its all part of plan God has for you.  I say this because one day I will question my own motto.  One day I will doubt my own words in a struggle so hard that I will think carrying on is simply not an option.  In that very scary moment in my life I just hope that the people I call friends and family will step up and simply remind me "that everything happens for a reason.