Most of you who know me also know that I am a very outspoken person. It is rare for me to keep my true feelings about things secret...yeah it's my double edged sword. So why should this be any different??? Well here it goes...
Homeschool? Public? This seems to be an irritatingly ongoing, never ending, mind numbing topic that will NOT stop being brought up all over social media. Let me first start off by saying that I am a HUGE advocate of homeschooling and I even considered it for my own children. As surprising as it may seem....we chose for me to get a job instead. I figured that a plate of food three times a day and clothes to wear...let's not forget a place to sleep was just slightly more important than me playing teacher at home. I had to weigh my options and sometimes in life we are forced to choose even if both are truly equally important...still doesn't change the fact that we couldn't have both. Yeah, my husband and I and our family live a fairly comfortable life. So before you go on about how I chose luxury over the greater good of my kids, yeah, just get that shit out of your head now.
So here's the thing. My kids (just one so far) are public school kids. The difference? I am one of those parents that is actually INVOLVED with my child's education. I help her with things at home, ask her about any concerns she might have, volunteer at school (when I can). I also make damn sure that she is being treated right, not only by her fellow classmates, but her teachers as well. If I ever for one second felt as though my child was not growing the way she should in public school...I'd be the first person to address the situation...no matter how many times it takes....until I felt good about it. So for you moms out there with your homeschooled kids, always home cooked dinners, and super clean houses. Yeah...you can get off it already. I admire you for all that you do, and i know first hand how difficult being a stay at home mom is. However, I also know first hand how being a "go to work mom", then come home and clean and cook mom...get home from work late and do homework with your kids mom....squeeze in a late night workout mom...(the list is endless) can be too. I think that once we stop trying to one up each other and realize that it's not a pissing match then we might be able to see the big picture. The fact is sometimes kids struggle and fail in public school system and it's not for all kids...but they do it anyway. Sometimes kids who do homeschool fail and lack social skills and don't excel as much as they would had they been in public schools. Just know that I as a parent make the best decision I can with the options I am given. I don't just send my kid off to school because I don't want to deal with them. I send them off to school because I researched the school system they're in and have done the best I can on my side.
So before it even becomes an issue lets go ahead and talk about school violence. Sure, we see kids bring guns and knives, but it's inevitable that we live in a very dangerous world. Anyone could die in a car crash, do you make your kids walk everywhere they go? People shoot up movie theaters, are they not allowed there either? Hell, parents have molested their children and a lot worse, do you insist on having supervised parenting with your kids? No, you don't. Why? Because not all situations are the same and the threat is there regardless of the decisions we make. This argument is more than flawed.
I only ask one thing...and that's is that we shut the hell up and stop arguing about something that will keep us spinning in circles. Just because you're a stay at home mom doesn't mean that is always the best choice. And just because you send your kids to public schools doesn't mean that is always best either. So unless God decrees it one way or another...shut the hell up!!
This isn't a debate so if you plan on arguing with me....you'll just get deleted.
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